Let your wallflower speak ❀

In one of my previous post, I mentioned about how our past makes us who we are today.

By reflecting on our past, it will teach us a few lessons which makes us learn from it. Although the past experience of ours built us who we are today, stronger and wiser than before. We often say:" Let the bygones be bygones." but how often are we willing to let it go? 

We may convince ourself that the past is gone and it'll never be a part of us. The truth is, it was a part of us. From that past experience, it moulded our character for a better change. However, when one finds themselves in a current situation which is similar to their past, without realizing they build these walls because one maybe afraid that history might repeat again. 

you maybe thinking " Hey, wait a minute. I thought the past made us stronger so when the similar experience occur, we're much more conscious with our actions and decisions." With that thought, our walls will start building on its own. This makes a person very skeptical with their decisions now because of what has happened before. 

As our walls are build, it closes our mind and making us close minded. Everyday we're constantly learning and the world around us is evolving. If one has closes their mind, it is hard to learn and further improve themselves. With that being said, it will stop us from moving forward and changing. 

This is where our TRUST and INTUITION comes in. Often our brain is the one usually doing the talking but do we really take a moment to close our eyes and listen to our heart? Our brain is so extrovert that our heart is always ignored just like a wallflower ❀ . 

Once we pay attention to that wallflower❀ in us, the decisions you make will never fail you. In fact, it will only bring wonders. 

So whenever you're about to make a decision, close your eyes and for once, let your heart speak. 

Changing for love?

They say "Don't change because of someone. Be who you are."

"Changing for someone isn't worth it."
"Don't lose your identity because of love"
"Stop pleasing them"
"Be yourself"
"Don't change for love"
"Stop impressing others"

We've heard of all these statements trying to advise us not to change who we are just to impress the ones we usually are interested in pleasing.

If one is willing to change who they are when they're not, it shows the effort and love they have towards their loved ones.
Some may criticise them for being stupid or dumb just to change for someone else but to those who appreciate it is the ones that recognise their change, they are the one who deserves such love.

In this very moment, it is up to the other on how they handle the changed that their loved one has made for them.
Eventually, a person could not continue an act for a long time. Their true colours would start showing and they would not be who their partner perceive them as who they were when they met at the very first beginning.

But if a person is still capable of loving them even though their partner has shown their true colours, this love will be full of surprises and it'll blossom because both end up loving each other even more because they know how far they'll go just to love one another.

Love is always unconditional and simple
Love deeply and fiercely with all your heart, mind and soul

Namaste

What I love most about festive seasons

There's always the time of the year where many people from different cultures and religion come together to celebrate their festive season.

The Thai / Siamese welcomes their new year Songkran with water to wash away all sins and purify themselves. 

Indians signify the good over the bad and the arrival of spring by holding a Holi Festival. 

 

  

In Taiwan, people write or draw their wishes on floating lanterns and release them into the sky, hoping their dreams will come true

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The Carnival of Rio de Janeiro marks the beginning of lent festival 

By remembering our origins, musicians and indigenous musician come together to celebrate a unique festival called " Rainforest World Music Festival " in the mythical authentic island of Borneo, Malaysia. 

                                      

As a Malaysian Chinese, I celebrate Chinese New year. 

One thing I love so much about celebrating Chinese New Year  is not only because of the 红包 (Red packet), Kuih muih🍘 (traditional sweet desserts), the fireworks 💥nor the lion dance🐉;

It's the spirit of the festival that brings us both 

family and friends together to come to celebrate one of the biggest festivals in Malaysia.

Decorating the house with red lanterns🏮, flowers and my grandpa's handwritten calligraphy about Chinese New year's blessing and wishes㊗️;

The tradition of wearing our different kind of Chinese costumes👘;
To endeavour my grandma's home cooked traditional food on the Eve ( now made vegan🌱 );
It's the time of the year to get to know more about our other family members👱🏽👦🏾👱🏻‍♀️👩🏻 that we do not know of;

To catch up & spend time with each other about our latest journey in life over some traditional Chinese cookies 🍪and chrysanthemums tea🍵;

To give us an opportunity to show respect to our elders 👴🏼 by holding a tea ceremony 🍶;

Hopping from one house to another to visit our grandparents to grand aunts & uncles to cousins to friends; 👣
Figuring out how to address other family members by their status and the connection they have with us; 👲🏼👧🏻👶🏽👱🏽
Laughing and talking about our childhood with one another; 😂
Going back to my parents' hometown to visit the other part of my family; ⛩

The sound of mahjong 🀄️ & shuffling
of cards ♣️ being played by the young & old;
Seeing vintage family portraits of their life journey hanging on the wall of our relatives house we 拜年; 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦
Looking at how the young ones in the family now becomes a grown up & bringing their lovers back home to introduce to their family members; 👫💕

The house once again is filled with the boisterous yet with joyfulness sound of family and friends; 🗣✨
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As today marks the last day of Lunar New Year for 2017, may every festivals and welcoming of the new year/ season brings us peace, love, positivity, abundance and happiness

Namaste 

Love at first sight

How common is the phrase "love at first sight"?

As cliche as it is, but not everyone will experience meeting their spouse or partner with that instance spark or the strong force that brings them together.

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To those who really found their loved one at the very first moment they lay eyes on each other, you're very blessed and it must be one of the best things that ever happened in your life.

If you're still reading my post, you must be curious about why am I writing about this?

When a partner gets in a relationship, it's because both feel the attraction with one another.
You glanced through the crowd and stare from far, that one person in the crowd catches your eyes. You think to yourself, " He's charming, He's got that cute smile, Everything tick off from your dream guy list " ( Whatever you can think of ) and subconsciously your mind tells you "He has the potential." The guy probably has similar thoughts as you and either one of you walks up to another, assuming that's how a person gets into a relationship.

As time passes by, you see your partner's characteristics, true colours, their vulnerability and habits. Once you've seen their flaws, some of you will accept and still love who they are despite your high expectations of them.

Unfortunately in today's society, many have lost the sparks they once felt towards their partner and this is where the saying comes in..

What I feel about why marriages may fail or friendships/relationships end quickly, the bonds between children or friends are no longer strong brings it down to the core issue of FEELING.

Why does it have to do with feelings?
When you meet a person you're attracted to, you've butterflies in your tummy and your heartbeat races. That's a feeling
You see someone who has the potential to be your friend whether a friend that you could count on and will always be there to listen to your problems 24/7. That too is a feeling.

But we know feelings doesn't last long just like how nothing last forever. This is why many of us tend to lose the good feeling of a person once we've known them for a long time and it may spoil the relationship we feel towards another.

Before you make any big decisions to cut connections with the people you once felt the spark with,  take the time to truly listen to your heart and picture the memories both of you made.

If you ever feel like you're losing your feelings towards your loved ones, question and ask yourself;
What made you love the person at the very first moment?
How did the person capture your attention in the very first place?

Rekindle the spark and feel it once more again <3 Appreciate and be thankful that they're a part of your life.

Sometimes people need to be reminded of their presence and how they bring joy in our world. By just saying " Thank you for bringing happiness and laughter into my life" or giving them a hug could brighten up their day or make them feel very special.

The world needs our love, kindness and positivity.